Day: October 4, 2020

There are times when parents do not notice the time their children should spend in bed; they do not think about the hours they need to sleep and put them to bed and wake them up according to the needs of the family, instead of the needs of the little ones. Not having routines at bedtime can harm children. They need rest; it is just as important as eating.

How much should they sleep?

Children need to sleep some hours, depending on their age group. For example, children from 1 to 2 years old should sleep from 11 to 14 hours a day, from 3 to 5 years from 10 to 13 hours, and children from 6 to 12 years old, from 9 to 12 hours.

These data are indicative, and there will be children who should sleep more and others who should sleep less. They will do it according to their physical needs, but it is important to respect the minimum hours by age groups so that the little ones have a good rest, and therefore, a good development.

Why should they sleep early every day?

That your children have to go to sleep early because you should not change, and the best time is from 8.30 to 9.30, depending on the time they have to get up in the morning the next day. Children should have the routine of going to bed early. After all, they will be happier, know when to go to sleep, and have more capacity to learn the next day because they have had enough rest. Besides, and of course, their health must sleep the appropriate hours in the day.

Having your children go to sleep early will bring them physical, emotional, and cognitive benefits. If you still do not have routines for your children to go to sleep and do not have a schedule each night, it is time for you to believe it, and those habits change forever.

Reasons why children should go to bed early

Your children need to rest, and here are several reasons why children go to sleep soon.

Better rest

Children who go to sleep later in the night will have more trouble falling asleep and staying asleep through the night. This can lead to multiple awakenings, lighter dreams, nightmares, and even night terrors during the night. If they go to bed early, they will rest better.

Fewer tantrums

Kids who don’t sleep the hours should have more tantrums, and this study shows it. The study makes it clear that children who go to bed before the night are less irritable the next day, are less aggressive, and are also less likely to have tantrums or to be irritable about anything; all are advantages!

Better development in motor skills

As if that were not enough, a Japanese study showed that children who did not sleep enough or went to sleep late at night were more likely to suffer delays in their motor skills, both gross and fine, and could also suffer a delay in language and social skills. All this, in comparison with those children who did have stable routines to go to sleep and who also did it at an early hour.

Less stress for parents

Parents also find great benefits in having their children go to bed earlier. They will suffer from less stress, have a better mental health state, and can relax more easily than those parents whose children go to bed later and who sleep worse at night because of this.…

On many occasions, parents face the nerves of parenting and the uncertainty of doing it right or wrong … when they limit the behavior of children, they are also limiting their feelings without realizing it. They do not allow their emotions to surface and repress them in search only of obedience and fleeting “peace” in the home. Parents need to realize that behavior is one thing and feel another.

Limits and tantrums

Tantrums are your kids’ way of expressing to you that they don’t agree with what you tell them or the rule you are making them obey. When this happens, you have to allow them to express their feelings. It’s natural to feel angry and disappointed when you set a limit for your child.

Parents’ job is to accept those feelings of their children and love them equally above all else. The more you do this, the less stressful their feelings will be, and the fewer tantrums there will be in the future. If you cannot tolerate his anger, sadness, or reaction to the limit and do not use empathy, the child will learn that he is part of what is unacceptable and will feel shame, resentment, and loneliness.

As with any unacknowledged emotion, anger and sadness do not fade; they go underground, where the seeds of depression are magnified and sown.

Limits with empathy

Even if your children don’t like the limit you are setting, it is essential to empathize with them. If the parents can establish a calm and emotionally stable environment, while at the same time reinforcing the limit, the child will have the freedom to lash out at the limit, cry and regret it… But in the end, he will accept it and move on.

Moving forward means finding an acceptable path without having to break boundaries. It is the firm limits accompanied by the empathy that allows our children to experience their full reactions to the limits and accept both their feelings and the rules.

The child learns that the world is full of obstacles and cannot always be what he wants. You will find another way to feel better when something does not go as expected, and that is what life is about. The limits must be with empathy and banish authoritarian limits forever, making them feel like a bad person.

Your child will learn that he cannot always get away with it, but he has something better: someone who loves him unconditionally and accepts him for who he is. This is positive regard that becomes the core of unshakable positive self-esteem and stable inner happiness.

You also learn that you can tolerate your anger and feel better afterward. In this, we see the beginning of resilience, as it considers other forms of action. An example would be this type of thinking in children: “I can’t have my birthday party at the circus because we can’t afford it. Yesterday I cried a lot about this, but my parents understand how I feel. Maybe they would help me design a soccer party in the park and let my friends stay the night. “

How many limits are suitable?

Spending your life setting limits for children will only create frustration and feelings of resentment. Before setting limits, you must have a strong emotional bond so that the child accepts it and accepts your empathy towards him. If you sabotage his happiness by creating arbitrary or unfair frustrations or limits, he will not accept your attempts to empathize.

After all, you have the power to grant her wish, and you refuse to do so over and over again. Second, children have many frustrating situations in their lives daily without you believing them. Remember that your child should feel like part of her team and not like a part of the opposing team.…